BDSM interviews: Cara Dee

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“I want my kink to be real. The characters will provide plenty of romance anyway!”

Cara Dee is starting a new BDSM series where romance meets the reality of kink. Sometimes we fall for someone we don’t match with, sometimes vanilla business gets in the way of kinky pleasure, and sometimes we have to compromise and push ourselves to overcome trauma and insecurities. No matter what, two things are certain. This is not a perfect world, and life never turns out the way you planned.

What do you want readers to know about your new series?

Partly that the kinks and playtime come from a place of experience. Being a kinkster myself, it’s sometimes like nails on a chalkboard when you read something that’s either impossible or just doesn’t make sense. But at the same time, kink is free to interpret as long as everyone involved are consenting. They make their own rules, which I will demonstrate in more than one of the books. This includes unsafe play sometimes. In BDSM romance, we often read about safe, sane, and consensual, but not all kinksters adhere to that. Personally, I follow RACK, risk-aware, consensual kink, and it gives a little more freedom to explore while it also gives both the Top and the bottom equal amount of responsibility. It’s a lovely idea to have the Dom read the mind of the submissive, which, strangely, is also common in kink romance. Unfortunately it’s not real. I want my kink to be real. The characters will provide plenty of romance anyway!

In Top Priority, two Daddy Doms meet each other instead of finding their Littles. In your opinion, what is more difficult for a relationship – when two people are kinky, but have entirely different kinks in mind, or when one person is kinky and the other isn’t?

Definitely the last one. I’ve been there. I was kinky, he was vanilla, and…just no. Eventually, it will tear on most relationships. Had he been kinky but we would’ve clashed, we would’ve still been able to compromise and find our way. It always depends, I guess, but in my experience, I’d rather have a kinky partner with other kinks, than no kinks at all.

What makes BDSM appealing to you (as an author and a reader)?

It’s a big part of my life on a personal level. Otherwise, aside from my own personal needs and desires, the psychology draws me in.

You write both M/M and M/F romances. Is writing M/M and M/F kink different somehow?

No, not really. But I do get an idea fairly quickly when I think of a plot, what I want the characters to be like, and who they are. It’s a chemistry thing.

Are you more into writing something dark and hardcore or sweet and naughty? What are your favorite kinks to explore in your books?

I’m a sadomasochistic middle, so when I write, I love to mix the roughest of the rough with the soft-hearted Daddies. Colt is pretty much my kind of Daddy, although the third book will show my kinks a bit more in detail. River and Reese…oof, those two. One sadistic Daddy and one plain Sadist. It’s gonna be rough, primal, thrilling, but also sweet when sweetness is necessary. Book 3, Breathless, will be my darkest BDSM romance yet.

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